Simple yet Powerful
What is the first thing we want to do when we see a newborn baby? Hold the baby, hug the baby! Then kiss, pinch and squeeze the dickens out of him/her. And we love to pat their little diapered battooties!
It’s pretty much instinctual the physical contact adults or parents make with babies and young children. All is lost it seems by the time these cute little bundles of joy become bigger, taller, moody, goofy, talented, stressed out, bundles of teenagers.
The physical abyss between adults and teenagers occurs over time. When the child starts to walk, we hold them less and less with each passing year. By the time these kids are teenagers we’re lucky if we can make eye contact let alone exchange a warm physical embrace.
Something as simple as eye contact validates each other’s existence. Who doesn’t want validation? Texting, emailing and snap chatting is killing the art of eye contact.
Technology is also killing the genuine physical expression of human warmth also known as a HUG.
This simple yet powerful gesture can make a significant difference in a teenager’s life. And I’m talking about teen girls AND boys.
A hug benefits both the giver and receiver.
During a hug we exchange DNA and foster a connection that fosters recharging on a regular basis.
Physical detachment can eventually lead to an emotional detachment. Emotional detachments have been known to lead to a variety of behaviors, bad choices, physical ailments, despair and could even lead to suicide.
So, Now What?
I wish saving someone’s life was as easy as a hug but unfortunately the situation is multi-dimensional. However, keeping that physical connection with your teenager or someone else’s teenager could make a significant and powerful difference in both of your lives.
Next time you encounter a teenager, please look them in the eye, ask if you can give them a hug, and then enjoy the embrace. Be patient, prepared and respectful of a “NO” response.
You may want to ask them, “How ya’ doing?”
And then…just listen.